This year is coming to a close and I have so many good tidings. I have done much this year. Things I have never done before. In case you missed it, I’ve written three books, published two spoken word poems and continued one amazing story of my own. I have battled dragons and I have come out alive. I hope that the same can be said for you.
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine about “destiny.” Obviously, I have an opinion on this. I have one about every other damn thing, don’t I? We were talking about how they felt destined for something, and that the people in their life weren’t able to help them with their destiny. That they should move on. Which I would regularly agree with, except that I don’t.
I’ve heard a handful of times about “destiny” and how people are supposed to follow it.
How can you follow something that gives you no hints, and no signs? Everything that happens in my life is something that I interpret as one way or another. If a girl I’ve been fawning over ends a relationship, that isn’t necessarily destiny telling me to do something about it. That’s a girl ending a relationship and I also happen to be into her, which means I have an opportunity to affect the course of my life. Or a new job opening up in a field I want to work in, that isn’t necessarily destiny, it’s just an event that I notice and work towards. There are so many of these things in our lives that can come across to us, and it would be foolish not to act on any of them.
See, life is full of doorways. We just continue walking along and every second we get to make choices. Down to the things that we say and do, to the huge choices that obviously affect everything around us. We just aren’t aware of it always because it is such a constant. We know that if we eat, we will be full. We know that we can save money by staying in, but why not go out? We know that a friend of ours works at a restaurant, and so we go there. We know that he is throwing a party and we are invited, so we meet up after dinner. We know that we shouldn’t drink a bunch, so we don’t, we just get kind of buzzed. We know that we should go home, but this conversation is going in a great way and we want to stick around to feel the love of the friends we are surrounded by. We know an adventure doesn’t sound like the smartest idea but do we care? No. We just know it will be fun.
At the end of the night, you see how far you made it with just a handful of tiny choices.
So then you see how your day could have played out, either sitting inside with your friends or roommates, or standing on top of a car singing with your friends at the top of your lungs, with only a slight buzz. Which night sounds like a better story?
Of course, that being said, it doesn’t mean that staying in provides a bad story. Sometimes we need it. I stay in pretty frequently. I still like to go out, though, because there are so many more doors outside. There are hundreds of choices every day that we make without even really thinking about it. It’s a matter of our minds, I have never believed in destiny.
If I believed in destiny, I wouldn’t have started writing. I would have continued doing what I was doing before. I would grow up and would have become a grumpy old man with little love in my life because I didn’t get out and experience things. I didn’t start writing, I didn’t take days off to go on trips. I didn’t do so many of the things that I wanted to do. Right before I do something big in my life, I picture myself as an old man telling the story. I picture how much emotion I have in my voice and how excited or sad I am that I’m telling it. I imagine every scenario and play it all out.
It helps me know when to move forward with things. It helps me gauge my life.
I’m not saying that the concept of destiny is bunk. Not at all. For many of my friends, it is what they use to guide their lives and as long as they are happy, that’s fantastic. I want them to be happy. I want you to be happy too, whether you’re playing Destiny, whether you’re singing on top of cars, whether you believe in destiny or not. Just do what you need to do to be happy, that’s all I could ask for. Destiny isn’t so hard, is it? It’s just about the choices you make, so make good ones. Your destiny is waiting.
Life is not meant to be awful.
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