HIMYM Series 42: The Okay Man (S02:E20)


This week I have a few sweet surprises hidden up my sleeve, I hope that you are as excited as I am. 😉

In the 42nd episode of HIMYM, Ted is trying to write the best man toast for Marshall’s wedding but keeps getting censored, Lily is trying to stuff her face with junk food and Barney wins actually everything on The Price is Right in the attempt to tell Bob Barker that he is his son.

As you’ll be hearing frequently this month, I was just at my best friend’s wedding in Oregon. I had stressed over writing the toast for months prior and I had actually gone through 44 different versions. I was horrified that I would make some kind of mistake or say the wrong thing with all of the family and friends there. I was a mess and had almost given up, a lot like Ted in this episode but for a different reason.

In Ted’s scenario, two nights before the wedding he catches Marshall sneaking back into their apartment to find out that he had been visiting Lily every night that they weren’t together. In my scenario I had a pretty powerful realization.

Travis was my best friend, and he knew that I would come through because he believed in me. It was something that might seem small, in forty years the best man speech isn’t a part of the wedding that you remember. Still, I wanted to put together all of the emotions that I have had this year into one speech and I wanted it to represent the inspiration I and my other friends get from seeing those two.

The night before the wedding, we ran into Travis’ father. That’s a big deal and it will be explained in a later blog post. What is important is that in that moment, I think it kind of clicked with me that it was a real scenario. Travis was getting married. My best friend was moving forward once more and I didn’t know what I needed to do.

Fortunately, I had the first step. I wrote his toast.

See, this life can be complex and convoluted and it can stress you out beyond comprehension, but moving forward is a matter of taking things one step at a time. No matter what it is, chip away at the things you can do now and make room for friends and family to help you along the way. That’s why I don’t let the stress of life truly bother me. I know that at the end of the day, whether I have to write a speech that will hold up and make friends cry, or if I have to move halfway across the country for a job, or if the task at hand is any bigger, I know that I have loved ones all around me.

With people like those guys in my corner, there is nothing that I can’t accomplish. The same can be said for you, because no matter who your circle is, I’m backing you up, I’m rooting for you, and I’m writing a speech already that will commemorate your victories.

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