The 17th episode of “How I Met Your Mother” is about Marshall changing his attitude to get along with his new coworkers, and those changes affecting his relationships with Lily. Today, I wanted to talk to you about how we behave towards one another.
It’s easy to fall into habits or routines in our daily life. One month we could be actin one way, and then meet a new person. A month later we’ve adopted some of their habits and actions into our own lives. It’s a beautiful thing to me, because it echoes that age old idea that we are all made up of the same stuff and we all came from the same place. I’ve personally noticed habits forming that I need to break as soon as possible.
I’ve gotten pretty bad lately about talking poorly about others. I’ve festered in my room or at a dining table and spoken ill of people I love because I’ve been frustrated at their attitudes and their state of mind, when I have no room to talk. I am full of errors, I can’t make those kinds of judgements.
I can’t throw feces lest I expect feces to be thrown at me, and believe me, I can guarantee that it has. My short temperament has probably caused a lot of bitterness inside of some of the people I love most, and it’s far past time to fix that. It’s something that I need to work at every day. There is no magic cure all button for anything, no matter how much we wish that there was. I believe wholeheartedly that every action we make is because of the things going on in our heads. I believe that there is no auto-pilot.
Perhaps my bitterness has been rooted in jealousy, or greed, perhaps I am watching someone go down a path I’ve gone down and I’m getting angry that they won’t listen to all of the warnings that are being thrown towards them. Perhaps it is something deeper than that. Something that I can’t define in an 800 word blog post. Perhaps it’s something I have yet to uncover.
From where I’m standing, the only thing I can see is that there is something in front of me that I don’t like, that I don’t want to be a part of, and yet I’m still doing nothing about it.
It’s important in this life to choose who you give your time to. There are good seeds and there are bad seeds, all people will do good or bad things and at some point every single person will elicit every kind of response imaginable from you. I guess you just have to ask yourself in the long run…
You’re got two choices: Continue the bad habits, knowing that they will eventually erode at your relationships, or, put a stop to them as quickly as possible, because you know that they come from a petty place that should have no foothold in your life.
What do you do?